When the mother is not there for the baby, not emotionally available or responsive when the child seeks their attention, affection, or support for the baby in the first 0-5 years of their life?

• The baby behaves badly in the absence of the mother, which can lead to future anxiety and vulnerability
• Social maladjustment
• Dependency anxiety- Dependent personality disorder (DPD) is a type of anxious personality disorder. People with DPD often feel helpless, submissive, or incapable of taking care of themselves and always need others to take care of them.
• Intellectual retardation
• Can develop either of the 3 insecure attachment styles (Anxious, Avoidant, and fearful-avoidant styles)
• Anxious Attachment style- neglected by parents in the past, these children can grow up to be overly clingy, needy, and attention-seeking. People with this type of attachment are characterised by a strong fear of abandonment and rejection. They question their worth and think they are not loveable. People who form this attachment type are most likely to suffer from high anxiety. Such individuals can develop low self-esteem and need constant reassurance from their partners.
• Avoidant attachment style: After being neglected by the parents in the past, the child will stop expecting anything from the parents and learn that they should not express emotions openly or seek support because they are not going to receive anything. These children grow up to have a positive self-image as adults and to be independent and self-sufficient. Adults with this type of attachment style will avoid being in a romantic relationship as they believe other people will reject their emotions anyway, so why bother trying to express them?
• Disorganized Attachment Style: Incorporates both the anxious and the avoidant styles. The disorganized attachment style is believed to be a result of childhood trauma or abuse (physical, verbal, or sexual) by the parents (or any caregiver). Perceived fear is the central aspect of its development. As a child, it expects care and security from its caregivers. On the contrary, if it receives behavior from them or witnesses behavior that invokes fear and insecurity, it can lead to this kind of attachment style. The child does not know what to expect. Nor does the child know when the caregiver will meet their needs, if at all. Adults with this kind of attachment style will lack a coherent approach-on the one hand, they want to belong, want to love, and want to be loved. On the other hand, they are afraid to let anyone in and have an intense fear that the people who are closest to them will hurt them. People with this kind of attachment style want relationships but fear intimacy and avoid proximity.

However, regardless of which insecure attachment style a person has developed based on their childhood, it is completely treatable through psychological interventions and other means.

•  Get to know your attachment pattern by reading up on attachment theory.
•  Getting Therapy (Talk therapy or CBT)
•  Seek out partners with secure attachment styles
•  Consider the impact on current relationships
• Understand your childhood experiences, explore how your upbringing affected your attachment style, and work on breaking those patterns.